Fear of Commitment

Question

I have really hard time with relationships with friends and also with girlfriends because I always get really suspicious that they are talking about me behind my back or disrespecting me or using me for my money and I always blow up at them or cut them out of my life. It has happened so many times that I find out later that I was wrong but whenever I try to make up for it after the fact it never really works out because of what I said in the heat of the moment. Right now I am very alone and in a bad place. I know that I am like this and that I don't act rationally but I keep repeating the same pattern over and over again so I also know that I cannot control myself. What do I have to do to learn to change so I can manage to keep a friendship or relationship for more than a few months?

Linda Richardson · Accepted Answer

Counseling can provide you with an opportunity to discover the root of your difficulties with trust and commitment, then work to overcome these areas.

Often times, a person with these issues will need to improve their self-esteem and self-confidence. If these thoughts seem to arise from an overall prolonged and hightened feeling of suspiciousness, other forms of treatment, such as medication, may be helpful.

Brief counseling work can put you on the right track to getting the proper treatment for your situation.

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