Time and the Grieving Process.

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I am having a hard time coping after the death of my husband Mark in January. I feel stuck and half of me doesn’t want to move on and the otehr half just wants everyone to leave me alone and in peace. I haven’t left the house to do much more than the shopping since the funeral and my children want me to talk to a professional. They are quite insistent. Before I agree I want to know how long it takes. How many sessions can I expect to need?

Rebecca Ashton · Accepted Answer

I'm sorry to hear about your loss.

When it comes to grief, there are no time limits. The process can be as unique as the individual experiencing it and really it is about finding what works for you, which your counsellor will be able to help you with in as many or as few sessions as you feel you need. (Although some therapists work over a set number of sessions, so it might be worth checking around if you feel you need something more open ended.)

I understand your children's concern, however I feel that it is still very early days and that you needn't rush into anything right now if you do not feel ready-I suggest that you keep the option of counselling open for if and when it feels right for you. I wish you all the best for the future.

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