Recovery from Home Invasion

Question

THE VICTIM OF A VIOLENT HOME INVASION. NOW I CANNOT SLEEP BECAUSE I SPEND MY NIGHTS WAITING AND CHECKING STRAINING TO HEAR THE SHOUNDS OF AN INTRUDER. I AM THINKING ABOUT GETTING A GUN BUT I AM NOT A GUN PERSON AND I HAVE NEVER WANTED ONE BECAUSE I HAVE 2 SMALL CHILDREN. WILL I FEEL MORE RELAXED ONCE I AM ARMED? OR SINCE THIS IS MOSTLY IN HEAD (I KNOW I AM ACTING CRAZY) WILL GETTING READY TO DEFEND MYSELF EVEN HELP?

Loren Gelberg-Goff · Accepted Answer

I am so sorry that your safety and security have been violated. Your boundaries and sensibilities have been breached, and you deserve to feel safe. I agree that getting a gun is NOT the answer. It is more important that you do things to increase your safety... an alarm system that is connected to your local police department is a good start. Taking a self defense class is an option as well... this increases one's self confidence and internal feelings of security. Additionally, getting therapy for Post Traumatic Stress would be helpful to reduce your inner stress and tension. Walking around fearful and anxious, especially in your own home where you need and deserve to feel safest undermines your power and your self-esteem. Helpful treatment modalities for situations such as yours are: hypnotherapy, EMDR, EFT, and you might even benefit from cranio-sacral therapy...

I wish you all the best, and I hope that these suggestions are helpful to you. All the best, Loren

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