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Thank you for your question. Your husband's drug use in addition to his high blood pressure sounds risky. Since I do not have a medical background, I cannot determine "who is right" in this scenario. This would be better answered by an MD. However, it may not be as important to understand who is right in this scenario. Usually people do not use drugs when everything is fine. Drug use is usually an indication that something isn't working. It may be more beneficial to talk to your husband about how you can help him.
What has also caught my attention is throughout your post, you sound incredibly angry. It might be helpful for you to seek individual therapy to talk about how your husband's drug use is affecting you. It must be difficult to know your husband is engaging in harmful behavior. Perhaps having the support of a therapist could help you formulate a conversation you could potentially have with him about your concerns. Your husband could also seek individual therapy to talk about his drug use or find a supportive group to talk why he is using. It could also be good if you both enroll in couples therapy so that together, you two can talk about what's going on with your relationship. You don't need to be alone in this. The fact that you wrote this post indicates that you are open to seeking support. There are many support groups and drug use recovery centers that can help. Good luck to the both of you.
About the Expert
Dr. Lani Chin
PsyD
Los Angeles, United States of America
Specialties
Anger Management, Gay Lesbian Issues, Sex Therapy, Personality Disorders, Trauma and PTSD, Compulsive Disorders, OCD, Addiction or Substance Abuse, Mood Disorders, Spirituality, Domestic Abuse or Domestic Violence, Anxiety or Fears, Impulse Control Disorders, Relationship Issues, Loss or Grief, Eating Disorders, Depression, Women
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