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I masturbate at work everyday... something wrong with me?
I masturbate at work everyday. I have a private bathroom and there is no way I am going to get caught. Part of me thinks it's no different from being at home since I am not bothering anyone else but another part of me wonders why I act like this and whether this is very abnormal behavior. Is there something wrong with me?
Read answer →Pornography Addiction
My fiancee has an addiction to pornography. I do not know if I can deal with this or not and so I am unsure about whether or not I should break of our engagement. We have had a problem about this issue in the past and I eventually told him that he needed to get help or I was going to leave him and so he did arrange to get some counseling with our pastor who is also a counselor and he is still going to see him once a week. I am happy that he is trying and I believe that he is making a real effort to get better but I found out yesterday that he has found some way to override the porn blocking software on our computer and has been looking at it again while I am doing shift work in the evenings. He can spend hours and hours doing it. I do not know what to do. I love him and I beleive that he is trying to change and I want to support him, but based on the evidence I am not sure if he ever can. What I really want to know is if he cannot control his urges to look at porn will he also not be able to control his urges to have sex with another woman if the opportunity ever presents - or is this a separate thing. I do not really understand sex addiction. Can a person be just a porn addict or are they a sex addict and that also looks at porn? I guess I am fortunate that our physical relationship is still OK and the porn has not affected his desire to be with me physically.
Read answer →Defining Sexual Addiction
I am a very sexual person. I like sex a lot with men and women and I have worked as an escort and exotic dancer at different times and I even enjoyed that. I crave sex daily and am always looking for new partners and fantasizing about men I see all around me, to the point where it's hard to focus on getting any work done! This has never been a problem for me. I always thought the idea of sex addiction was hilarious and ridiculous and that I was just free from societies expectations and doing what I wanted to do to have a lot of fun in my life. But now I am trying to stay in a monogamous relationship with a person I really care about and do not want to hurt and I have cheated on him 4 times already in the past 3 months and in addition to this I am doing sex chats on Fb and other sites pretty much every day. I don't know if that is cheating or not but I am sure he would be hurt if he found out. I do not want to cheat but it keeps happening. Am I just a person not built for monogamy or is it possible that there is something wrong with me that make me act like this?
Read answer →Paying for sex once a week: Sex addiction?
If I pay for sex about once a week does that make me a sex addict? I would not want to stop my little 'hobby' but I am not married and I do not think I am causing anyone any problems. I also think that there is nothing at all immoral about prostitution. I have decided that whatever goes on in private between consenting adults is OK with me.
Read answer →Sexual Expression and boundaries
A guy I am going out with and I really like a lot revealed to me last night that he is into sadomasochism. He kind of broached the subject of whether I would like to do some role playing with him. I am not into pain at all and the whole idea just freaks me out! I said no and he said it was no big deal. Now I am thinking though if he is into this and I am never going to be is this a deal breaker? Is he ever going to be satisfied with me if I am never going to put on those leather ropes or whatever he wants? I am also having a hard time understanding how this sweet guy that I know gets off by giving pain to other people. Is that a warning flag I should be seeing?
Read answer →Married, but I think about having sex with hookers all of the time
I am not sexually aroused by my wife anymore. There is nothing wrong with her and she still looks great but it is very hard for me even to get an erection with her any more. The problem is I have started using pay for play services and I love the rush of an anonymous sexual encounter. I am paying for it twice or three times a week and I am fantasizing about it all of the time. I think about having sex with hookers all of the time and it’s hard for me to resist my urges when I start thinking about meeting with someone. Things are getting out of control and I am worried about my marriage but I can’t seem to stop myself. What do I do? Right now it is so hard on my wife because she just blames herself and I don’t know what to tell her so that she will feel OK. I feel like such an ass and then a few hours later I will go out and do it all over again.
Read answer →Expressing your needs in a relationship
I have been dating on and off again this man for four years he 41 never married no kids. here is the problem i feel used & hurt of course the first few years good but he has a webcam sex addiction he even likes me to sit watch him talk to women whom don't know im in room watching this i did to make him happy but now the last 2 years he sleeps in other room and we don't never have sex but maybe 2xs a month i'm a very sexual women and torn with this i tell him it is cheating he said its not, when we do have sex it takes him a long time but if he jerks off it fast and the last few times we did its been bad i know this is not normal what to do how do i over come his problem. we get along good but it seems to me that we are just roommates with benfits & i'm to old for this but i do care for him maybe its cause i'm a care giver and i feel the need to fix him any input would be nice
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