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PROBLEMS -- Would you rather be stuck or begin feeling better?
Is it normal to be afraid of trying therapy? I am kind of nervous about opening up to anyone but I’m also really worried that if therapy doesn’t make me feel better then I’ll really feel hopeless. It’s like right now I am holding off so just in case things get really bad I can still feel like there will be something that will be able to help me – like a last resort kind of hope.
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I feel like I haven’t really cared about anything or anyone for a long time. I didn’t always used to feel this way and I am tired of feeling so dead inside. I think I’d rather feel bad than feel nothing. How do I stop feeling so detached from the world?
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I don’t know what to do. I have been married to my wife for 3 years and it is a good marriage, the second for both us. I have an 11 year old daughter and a 13 year old son from my first marriage and I have shared custody of the kids, taking them on weekends and my wife has full custody of her 17 year old son. At first things were quite good. My kids really liked and looked up to their older step brother and we were able to have a lot of fun as a new family without a lot of the drama that sometimes taints new family unions. Over the last 18 months or so though, my wife’s son has really gone through some major changes, changing from a basically sweet and adventurous kid who liked to push the boundaries a bit to a sullen and irritable boy who won’t go to school and who, I think, is a drug addict. We have tried everything with him but he is just determined to do what he wants to do and he doesn’t give a damn about the consequences. I really think he has a serious drug problem, at the very least with marijuana. It’s very sad and it’s terribly hard on my wife who is at her wit’s end. But what’s worse, is now my ex-wife is hearing a lot of stories about ‘the parties’ and ‘the drugs’ and ‘the girls sleeping over’ etc. And she is understandably very concerned about the influence he is having on our kids. I am too, actually. She says if I can’t get control of things she is going to seek full custody. So now I really don’t know what to do. I feel like I am caught in an impossible situation and I am forced to choose between my wife, who I love and my kids, and in this situation, I have to choose my kids…but it is just such a sad thing if this ends my marriage. Any advice on what I can do to make this better?
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