Tragedies Come in Many Forms

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My oldest son Rob died 6 months after after overdosing on heroin. He was 20. Now my 15 year old son is coming home stoned. I don't know what he is taking but I recognize the glassy eyes and red eyes of his brother. I didn't do enough before and I CAN'T MAKE THAT MISTAKE AGAIN. I need to send my son to a long enough program that he has a chance to get his head back on straight again. It is gong to be against his will. I am looking at military schools but I am not sure if they are going to be able to help him deal with what he needs to deal with and I think that he needs to get his head together and he can't do that in the home where there is such tragedy. What do you recommend for a longer program for a boy in his situation?

Jim LaPierre · Accepted Answer

Getting your son assessed for drug abuse/addiction makes a lot of sense. In the short term, residential rehabilitation may be in order depending upon where he is in the course of substance abuse and addiction. Long term propositions might best consider the need of supportive family. Sending your son away to military school may ensure short term safety but will likely do little to ensure long term stability and health.

I am wondering if your family has grieved the tragic loss of your son and if your remaining son has strong feelings about abusing the same drug as his deceased brother. Of all the drugs available it appears that he chooses the same drug that killed his brother. This is an avenue I'd want to explore and understand what it means to him.

I applaud you for wanting to protect your son. I encourage you to have him assessed and short term measures may have to be very intrusive - long term - your house is not simply a home where tragedy struck - it's where your son's family lives and ideally will support him in recovery.

Blessed be,

Jim LaPierre

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