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Daughter dressing inappropriately. What do I do?
We are a Christian family. My daughter is 14 and we have always had a good relationship. This year she has started to dress very provocatively. It makes me very uncomfortable and we have had a number of discussions about why dressing like a street hooker is not appropriate when going to school or to the mall. The fact that her school will allow this is another story for another day. We have also had a number of very intense arguments over the clothes she chooses to wear. The problem is, no matter how strict I am on the family dress code I cannot watch her 24 hours a day and as soon as she is out of our sight she will just head to her friend’s house and change into what she really wants to wear. What can I do to make her realize that dressing so sexily at her age is not going to get her the right kind of attention and will only lead to bad things?
Read answer →Exposing Teenagers to Medical Marijuana
My mother has suffered with arthritis for years. About a year ago her doctor encouraged her to try medical marijuana as an alternative treatment that might work to help diminish her pain. She was very reluctant to try it, always having been very anti-drug and straight laced, but she did try it and she finds that it helps her. So that it great and I am very happy for her. The problem I have is that she has taken a 180 degree turn on marijuana and now wants to sing its praises to anyone who will listen. Which would be fine, but that ‘anyone’ happens to include my 12 and 15 year old boys who I don’t feel need any pro-drug encouragement at this stage in their lives. I have asked her to stop but she says she isn’t going to hide her medicine in her own house or feel ashamed for taking something that helps her so much to control her arthritis, so she will even use in front of everyone when we come over. I can see her point, but I wish she could see mine. My husband is furious with her for all of this and thinks she is completely irresponsible and he is pushing me to stop letting her expose the boys to drugs and…and then I defend her because I feel like he’s not being totally fair and we end up fighting and so her ‘medicine’ has even become a problem within my marriage. We have always been a close knit family who visits each other frequently as we live within walking distance of each others' homes, but I am seriously considering not bringing the boys over any more. They’d hate it and she’d hate it and I’d feel terrible for doing it but I don’t know what else to do if she won’t listen to reason. Should I let the boys go over when I know they may be exposed to marijuana when they do?
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