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Trauma & Letting Go
I used to have crushes on people and had relationships in high school and I have been in love, I think, but never in a serious relationship as a so-called adult. I had a really messy ugly relationship in my first year of college and it ended with him abusing and controlling me. Not pleasant and so I decided to forget dating for a while and concentrate on my studies. So that’s worked out well except here I am, 9 years later, with a graduate degree and a very good job, and no love life at all. I have been on a few blind dates but that’s about it. I want a relationship but the issue is I feel nothing inside for any man I ever meet. I feel dead inside in this way and I hate it but I am at a loss on how to wake myself up so I can feel love again. I am an icicle and I want to be lava.
Read answer →Perfectionism
My wife is a perfectionist. I thought it was cute at first but now I worry that it’s actually really harmful to her mental health. She’ll stress out over every little thing and whenever she makes a little mistake or when she gets any kind of negative feedback from her boss she goes into a funk that can last for days. She just beats herself up over this. I have talked to her about this. She doesn’t think there is anything wrong with how she sees the world. What I see is that it makes her miserable a lot of the time and it really doesn’t do her any good. Considering that she hasn’t asked me to help her change on this, is there any way I can get her to not take things so hard when they don’t go perfectly as planned?
Read answer →Solution-Focused Therapy
I have been having some real trouble coping with stuff over the last year, or maybe longer. My dad died early last year at the age of 63 from a heart attack and that was a real shock. We had owned a sporting goods store as business partners. Now it’s all on me and while I had thought for a while that I wanted to run the show on my own, I never meant that I wanted my dad dead so I could do it and now that I am on my own, I am finding it very difficult and realize how much he brought to the table. Over the past year, for a lot of reasons I think, business has really slumped and I have also started having a lot of trouble with my 14 year old son, who is really rebelling now. I just feel like my life’s been knocked off kilter lately and I can’t seem to right it back to how it should be, no matter how I try. My wife says I am depressed and she wants me to talk to a therapist. I do not believe that I am depressed but I do see that things are not as they should be and I would be truly grateful if I thought there was someone that could help me. The problem is I have a very hard time believing that just sitting on a couch and talking to someone about my problems is going to help me in any real way. It won’t exactly make my problems disappear, will it? I have been trying to get a straight answer on how a therapist would help me get my life back in order and I haven’t really been able to get a straight answer so far. So what I want to know is, what would a therapist do that would help me to get my life back on track? Most of the time people seem to say a therapist will help me to see the problem more clearly, but I already know what the problems are, I just don’t have the solutions I need.
Read answer →Forgiveness
Is there any point in forgiving someone from my past who really hurt me even though I do not think I will ever see this person again. I am sorry for not wanting to give you any details about what happened but I prefer to keep these private. Suffice to say the person was much older than me and he did me very lasting harm. This happened more than 10 years ago and it has haunted me every day since.
Read answer →Psychiatrist and CBT
I dont abuse xanax,but I do feel like im addicted,ive taken half of a 2mg pill twice a day for three years,ive tried tapering but im still sick,what else can I do the anxiety and panic attacks are worst,but worst I feel like I may have a seizure and thats what I am afraid of.
Read answer →Making Friends/Social Stuff
Can therapy teach me how to make friends? I am very alone in my life and I am tired of watching everyone else at work go out and have fun together and not invite me. I want to go with them but it is like I don't know how to make it happen and I think they think I do not like them even though this is not true. I have come to the conclusion that friends on internet forums aren't much of a substitute for real people in the same room.
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