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How to get porn under control?
How can I get a porn addiction under control? I work at home and I surf the internet for hours each day when I should be working. This has a huge financial impact for my family. It probably cuts my earnings down by half but I still can’t control it. No one knows about my problem. I am married and it is too humiliating to tell anyone. How can I overcome this when I am faced with constant temptation all day every day?
Read answer →Son viewing torture porn
My son has Asperger’s. He is 17. I was checking his computer for a schoolwork file and I found he had saved pictures of torture porn. I do not know what to call it exactly but it involved people in pain mixed in with sex. I do not think this was normal s&m stuff. It is not something I know a lot about but there was blood and people getting smashed up and I found it sickening. What does this mean? Should I talk to him about this or pretend like I never saw it? He has never had a girlfriend (to my knowledge).
Read answer →Is he a sex addict?
If my boyfriend wants to have sex 3 or 4 times a day does this mean he has a sex addiction? This is a problem in our relationship. I cannot keep up with him but I worry he will look elsewhere if I don’t try.
Read answer →Looking for Love
I pretend like I care about things because otherwise people look at me like I am a psycho but I never really care about anyone or anything. The only way I know how to feel things is with sex for a minute and alcohol but that’s not really real. Most guys hook up with girls for sex but I hook up because it is too painful to go home alone. I want love but it has not happened yet in 26 years and 13 years of sexual activity. When I drift into an actual relationship I always end up hurting the other person because eventually they realize that I just don’t care very much. I attract girls easily but I never feel satisfied. The only real emotion I have is that I hate myself for being like this. If any girl knew how many sexual partners I have had they would not come near me because it is in the thousands.
Read answer →strip club addiction
This is a stupid question but I think I am addicted to going to strip clubs. I want to slow down because I am always broke. I am not an alcoholic because I only have 2 or 3 or 4 beer when I go but I feel like I have to go or I get super edgy. I work alone and live alone so I think I am addicted to the sexual human connection. I used to smoke and it feels almost like craving a cigarette. It costs me a lot of money even though the girls will give me alot of free dances. I see the same faces in there everyday so I don’t think it is just me. As you can probably guess I am not very good with girls outside of the club so this makes it harder to give it up.
Read answer →Emotional Intimacy Back After Recovery From Porn
How long to get intimacy back after porn addiction? What do you do when your addiction caused your wife to change just to keep the relationship going and now that your in recovery she is having a hard time changing back? I am a porn addict. I have been married for lucky 13 years. We had a good marriage for the first 3 years but then I started with shift work and so that affected our sex life and how much we got to see each other and then I got into watching porn and this led to a severe porn addiction and a total collapse of intimacy in the marriage. My wife dealt with this and kept the marriage going so we could stay together as strong parents for our 3 children. Now I want things to change and I am really trying but she likes things the way they are now. She doesn’t want to change back or try to reestablish an intimate relationship (I don’t mean sex, I mean emotional intimacy). I want to prove my intentions with actions, not words. How long should I prove myself to her before I start pushing for things to change?
Read answer →Women addicted to porn
Can women ever get addicted to porn or is this just something that happens to men?
Read answer →Feelings for girls on porno webcams
How bad is it to develop feelings for girls on porno webcams? I know it is really stupid and I am just money to these girls but there are a couple of girls that I really care about and I don’t feel OK if I don’t check in on them. It’s not just about the sex. It’s starting to cost me a lot of money but my feelings are real and I can’t pretend I don’t have them. I don’t know if these feelings are healthy or more like an addiction. What should I do?
Read answer →Sex Addiction Recovery & Enmeshment
Is sex addiction recovery possible if the route cause of being a mother enmeshed son is not addressed itself? If the controlling and intefering mother continues, without my hubby dealing with this enmeshment as he is to scared to confront her, can the sexual acting out be dealt with alone and what are the chances for the son being able to develop intimacy?
Read answer →Boyfriend porn watcher
My boyfriend is an obsessive porno watcher. I do not ever go on his computer without warning so he time to clean up any videos and websites he has up and running…I learned this the hard way. It is a problem for me and I find it very disgusting. I talked about leaving him because I had had enough it and I feel like how can he respect me and watch that all night and this is when he confessed that he was abused as a child and this is why he has a problem and he asked me to understand and help him change. Is getting sexually molested as a child of 7 to 9 going to have an influence on a man becoming addicted to porno websites when he is an adult? He says he wants to move in together so he won’t be as tempted to watch this stuff as he is when he is alone. I love him and I want to help him.
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