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Dig Deeper
I have an unexpected problem with quitting weed. I smoked every day for 2 years and I have decided that it just is not that much fun any more. It has been quite hard to beat the mental aspects of the habit but I have been 5 days now since my last joint. Unexpectedly I have had sexual problems since I quit. I have not been able to get a full erection for sex since I stopped weed and this never ever happened before. From what I have always heard quitting weed increases your sex drive. I am concerned but I am sure it is just a temporary quitting effect. It is very embarrassing. It is OK that it happened once but now when me and my girlfriend start fooling around I can feel that I am soft I have to make some excuse to stop. Is this normal and when will it go away?
Read answer →Fine line in porn usage: Addict or Insensitive Jerk?
Hello sir. My husband do the porn web cam. We have the problem a lot after I catch him send the email to someone who from the web cam chat and. What should I do with him and with myself sir. Thank you
Read answer →Obsession & Avoidance
I like to have one night stands and I have done this more than 400 times. Now I have a son who is 5 and I am realizing that I am never there for him emotionally because I am always thinking about sex and spending a lot of time finding new women to have sex with (it has to me new women every time to be exciting). When I go out at night but I can’t find a suitable partner I get very moody and hard to be around and then that makes me a bad father too. I can’t pay attention to my son when I am thinking about sex and I am too hard to be around when I don’t get it. I never realized that sex was a problem until my son started to not pay attention to me and when I asked him mom why she told me it was because I never gave him any attention. That hurt me for real. I am not sure how to stop because my habits are so set in place and I feel like I need sex or I will explode. How to I stop obsessing about this? I am 27 now so I think I should have had enough by now.
Read answer →Obsession, Compulsion & Violation
I love my wife but have this compelling drive to degrade and humiliate her. I have allowed many men to watch me have sex with her from outside our bedroom window or from inside our bedroom closet. I enjoy meeting with them the next day and discussing just how much they enjoyed the show. It is a huge thrill to hear them tell me details of what they like about her body and how she acts during sex. Further, I take her to our local porn theater and make her expose herself to a lot of the guys in their while they are masturbating while watching the move as well as her breasts. I also enjoy taking her out onto the freeway and making her expose herself to truck drivers. She begs me to not make her do these things but the drive is so strong in me that I can't stop it.
Read answer →She's Come Undone
so tell me there is help available for a poor girl who needs to get herself together
Read answer →Filling the Emptiness
i mean i have looked at treatment centers for what i feel is a sex addiction and they are all telling me that they are out of texas and really expensive. i am in texas and broke as a church mouse so what can i do? i am basically homeless you could say because i am couch hoping around from friend to friend trying to find a place to stay for more than a week at a time. i am trying to deal with a lot of things right now. but i just feel that i need to be in treatment for my sex addiction. i am 46 yrs old, and i just want to start my life over and change and to finally have a successful relationship. i kinda was not into church because i was very bdsm. which is part of the addiction. i am submissive and been told that i could be a great submissive but that i would need a Masters care and training again part of the addiction. i am very into bdsm, sex games and toys, not really into porn videos but do enjoy them but not on regular basis. i do have many one night stands just because i hate being alone and lonely. i just want to be the best person i can be and to rid myself of this pain and torment. Ann
Read answer →Final Straw or the Straw that Broke the Camel's Back?
Is there any way I can use a lie detector test to see if my husband has been cheating on me. I am not sure where to turn for this. He has cheated many times and he is now getting some counseling and is in 12 steps sex addiction group. I found a number on his phone and when I called it it was a woman and she hung up when I started asking questions. I want to believe him but this so usually means that he has another girl. He swears he doesn’t. I don’t know what to believe. I made him get help and he seems like he is really trying but my ability to trust him is totally damaged. I believe if I could have a way to know for sure in this instance if he was lying to me again or if it was the truth then I would know if I should stay or if this was the final straw.
Read answer →Sexual Responsibilities
I know an associate that has unprotected sex with prostitutes (don’t ask me how I know). He is married and he does not seem to care that he could get a fatal illness and that he could pass this on to his innocent wife. I am wondering if I should send her an anonymous letter (I have no love for this individual but I do not like to get in other people’s business? I also want to know if a person has to be a psychopath to deliberately put someone they are supposed to love in such risk of a fatal illness?
Read answer →Reality & Fantasy
It’s my new years resolution to give up porn. I think it was interfering with my ability to be intimate with my wife. I have been visiting porn sights once a day since I made a vow to give it up. This is down from 2 or 3 times a day before but I am flabbergasted at how hard this is to stop completely. I have good intentions but I have slipped every day so far so my will power sucks I guess. This is really something I need to do for my marriage. I am not sure how to do this? I spend all day online in my private office at home with no one around so the temptation is always there. Porn filters just don’t work.
Read answer →Getting the Best Start
Is a weekend sex addiction couples retreat long enough of a time to treat an internet pornography addiction or at least get a good start on nipping this thing in the bud? The program is Christ based and it focuses on helping couples restore non sexual based intimacy as a first necessary step in a long term process of healing. The other alternative is a 45 day residential program.
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